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12月27日 Pissed in my own homeWhy is it that she is so biased against me?
Im not the only one who shouts and screams yet im the only one getting endless mockery
Thats the way how me and my sister's communicates
When we're having a good time talking we'll shout and scream just to irritate each other
its ok if you dont understand
What happens next?
"Can you please shut up???? Such an ugly voice shout shout shout!!"
Yeah thats her screaming from the living room
I whispered to my sister as to why is she so biased against me?
All she can say .... hmmmmmm dunno la
Well seems like nobody is on my side ... have to fly solo again for another 10 years
When i was 10; she expected me to give in to my sisters
When i was 20; she expects to be sensible and follow her every command
So she can hope for a slow wishing star cos im never gonna succumb and conform to the her old-thoughts
12月19日 Bad weather Bad JooJooIm here with a heavy heart digressing
Pouring rains and cool winds
Seems perfect to spend your time with the one you love
But im surrounded by bad joojoo as the weather gets worse
Whats your position in the lives of your loved ones?
Do you know how much love they have for you?
Or are you just there for the sake of existing?
Im not being drama mama here
Why do i keep thinking that nobody likes me?
The enduring heartache is noticible not blinded by hatred
Much is expected from me because im a giver
If a single "NO" rode my lips ... feelings change towards me
Do you take me for a doormat?
Am i that low in your eyes?
12月17日 Should parents get involved in your life decisions??P.S:
Umm those people who get along with their parents fine pls dont bother to read this entry. You wont really agree with the opinions down here anyways. So you and your 2 steppin cousins can get the hell out!!!
They comment and intrude on your choice of clothes, study methods, food and on the extreme level your partner or marriage decisions. Should parents involve themselves in these activities? Anyway its you who have to make a decision at the end of the day. Yes they used to make decisions for you because you were incapable of making the right and wise decisions but what if they continue to do that even though you've reached adulthood. Should they leave you to make your own choices or still interrupt putting you in spot agreeing to their every say just to please them? There's a limit to everything. What i consider their intrusions is constructive criticism and advice. There's hell no way that they can affect my decisions; if i dont like it .. i just say no. They keep on pressing i'll still say no; force and pressure dont intimidate me. Point a gun to my face and i'll still say no.
Do they really mean well when they decide to kaypo on every decision you make? Or is just habit hard to crack? Parents .... when they decide to kaypo ... what they expect is that you listen to their advice and follow it; its an order in disguise. The point is ... are you bold enough to fight for what you want? Why listen to others? Just because they are your parents doesnt mean that they are right all the time.
Being understanding and compassionate is all it takes to induce goodwill between a parent-child relationship. Have you been in a situation when they made you feel so bad when you're not in the wrong. Reasons are taken as excuses and being understanding means lowering their position as parents. This is not about hierachy please; would some simple human courtesy destroy their ego? Lets say your parents calls you and you're in the midst of doing something important or got your hands full, polite human beings would understand and calls you back right? What if they thought you were lying and dont even wish to hear your explanation; screaming away on the other side of the phone when you return their call? Is that fair? Dont they ever think of anybody else other than themselves? So what if its a missed call? We're not in the middle of a war ...
More pressures are distinct when you are getting married. Parents would want to be the control king and queen of everything. Food, decor, music and guests lists. Thats because they are the one forking out most of the mula. Discussions are done to satisfy both parties but parents would still have the last say. The kid likes dark colours while the mother likes bright colour tones ... ideas will clash; sure leading to plenty of misery and dissapointment. Hey its your wedding ... you either fight for what you want or succumb to others making decisions for you. They will always remind you that its their mula that will make this wedding happen and they'll make sure you wont forget it. How to prevent this misery from happening?
Easy! ... Dont use their money! If you dont have the mula to get married then dont!
If you still want to get married ... no need for ceremonies just go to registration and the necessary processions
Dont give situations a chance to turn its back on you ... regret wont help you through the tough times ahead. Make everything your own and crawl your way out of the cage. Do you want to be behind bars till you so old and that only chance of valour has gone beyond recall of desire?
Think about it ...
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